{"id":274858,"date":"2025-07-07T10:53:12","date_gmt":"2025-07-07T14:53:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/?p=274858"},"modified":"2025-07-07T10:53:15","modified_gmt":"2025-07-07T14:53:15","slug":"cynthia-nixon-miranda-hobbes-ajlt-queerness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/culture\/cynthia-nixon-miranda-hobbes-ajlt-queerness-274858","title":{"rendered":"Where is Cynthia Nixon in the evolution of Miranda Hobbes?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"is-style-article-kik\">OPINION: There should be butches in the \u201cAnd Just Like That \u2026\u201d universe<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">My fixation on queerness in the <em>Sex and the City<\/em> universe is not a new thing. A couple of years ago, in advance of the Season 2 premiere of <em>And Just Like That<\/em> \u2026, I <a href=\"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/culture\/queer-sex-and-the-city-timeline-253162\">wrote an opus<\/a> on the surprising queer timeline of the original <em>SATC<\/em> series. I was remiss in not writing my \u201cWe have all dated Che Diaz\u201d hot take (we have, I have). And now, in Season 3 of <em>AJLT\u2026<\/em>, a favourite <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elle.com\/uk\/life-and-culture\/culture\/a64499175\/and-just-like-that\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">hate-watch<\/a> for women of a certain age, I would like the PR gods to bring me Cynthia Nixon, because I have some questions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Namely: How did Nixon let the writers represent Miranda\u2019s sexuality the way they have? Nixon is a queer woman herself. Not only a queer woman, but a queer woman living in New York City. And a queer woman living in New York City with a butch partner. According to <em>DIVA Magazine<\/em>, Nixon started dating her partner <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elle.com\/culture\/celebrities\/a44650521\/who-is-christine-marinoni-cynthia-nixon-wife\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Christine Marinoni<\/a> in 2004; the pair got married in 2012 and have a child together. Nixon is a known activist for many causes (and even <a href=\"https:\/\/cynthiafornewyork.com\/why-im-running\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">ran for New York governor<\/a> in 2018), and she and Marinoni have together advocated around LGBTQ2S+ rights and around education issues.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, let\u2019s return to Miranda, Nixon\u2019s member of the \u201ccore four\u201d of the original <em>SATC<\/em> series. Early on, Miranda, a successful lawyer with strong convictions, is presumed to be gay in her workplace. She is set up on a date, flabbergasted that said date is a lesbian, tries kissing said lesbian regardless of her own heterosexual designation, and decides that she is definitely not into women. Sure! And then she continues to be an outspoken woman who sports a short hairstyle and suits and ties around town, at one point saying, \u201cI\u2019m never going to be a girly girl\u201d (though I should not have to point out that \u201cgirly girls\u201d can be queer). This is not to mention her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/style\/miranda-queer-coded-sex-and-the-city-outfit\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">iconic overalls<\/a> + puffer ensemble\u2014and, yet, she is never presumed to be gay again. All right!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-tiktok wp-block-embed-tiktok\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@binge\/video\/7242543064655432962\" data-video-id=\"7242543064655432962\" data-embed-from=\"oembed\" style=\"max-width:605px; min-width:325px;\"> <section> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"@binge\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@binge?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">@binge<\/a> <p><a title=\"brunswick\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/brunswick?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#Brunswick<\/a> and <a title=\"newtown\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/newtown?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#Newtown<\/a> have been getting their <a title=\"fashion\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/fashion?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#fashion<\/a> inspo from Miranda Hobbes for the last 25 years  <a title=\"satc\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/satc?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#SATC<\/a> sexandthecity <a title=\"satc25\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/satc25?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#SATC25<\/a> <a title=\"fashioninspo\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/fashioninspo?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#fashioninspo<\/a> <a title=\"inspo\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/inspo?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#inspo<\/a> <a title=\"miranda\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/miranda?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#miranda<\/a> <a title=\"mirandahobbes\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/mirandahobbes?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#mirandahobbes<\/a> <a title=\"tv\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/tv?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#tv<\/a> <a title=\"tvshow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/tvshow?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#TVShow<\/a> <a title=\"tvseries\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/tvseries?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#TVSeries<\/a> <a title=\"show\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/show?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#Show<\/a> <a title=\"series\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/series?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#Series<\/a> <a title=\"clips\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/clips?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#Clips<\/a> <a title=\"tvclips\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/tvclips?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#TVClips<\/a> <a title=\"binge\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/binge?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#BINGE<\/a> <a title=\"isawitonbinge\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/isawitonbinge?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#ISawItOnBINGE<\/a><\/p> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"\u266c original sound - BINGE - BINGE\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-BINGE-7242543560455670529?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound &#8211; BINGE &#8211; BINGE<\/a> <\/section> <\/blockquote> <script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Fast forward to <em>And Just Like That\u2026<\/em>: Miranda is married to her long-time on-again, off-again beau, Steve (David Eigenberg); we learn the pair is not having sex. Their son is grown (and sex-crazed\u2014awkward, we knew him as a tiny child) and they\u2019re living in Brooklyn. Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker) is working on a podcast with non-binary bisexual comedian <a href=\"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/culture\/che-diaz-and-just-like-that-217326\">Che Diaz<\/a> (Sara Ramirez), whom Miranda meets at one of their (awful) stand-up gigs. Che has been written about excessively. But let\u2019s pause here: Che is not a woman; Che is (in my gender-policing opinion) somewhere on the androgynous- to masculine-presenting spectrum. Miranda is smitten, falls hard for Che, loses all self-respect, kind of becomes self-interested and screws over her friends. This is realistic! Based on what we\u2019ve seen on both <em>SATC <\/em>and <em>AJLT<\/em>, Che has a gender presentation that Miranda has never considered, never mind dated, before and they ignite something in her that is unexpected. Pearl-clutching Charlotte (Kristin Davis) exclaims, \u201cYou\u2019re suddenly having non-binary sex!\u201d It\u2019s super cringey but actually pretty realistic too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eventually (Season 2) Miranda and Che break up, and now (Season 3), Miranda is boasting that she is \u2026 a lesbian. Now, I am not here to open the can of worms that is \u201cCan you be a lesbian if you\u2019re attracted to someone who is not a woman?\u201d I am here to ask how the writers of this show decided that having one messy non-binary partner is the pipeline from aggressively heterosexual to lesbian. And how having one relatively masc-presenting queer lover creates a situation where Miranda is now attracted exclusively to straight-passing women\u2014a designation I use intentionally\u2014which is what seems to be the case. There\u2019s Miriam Shor\u2019s Amelia in Season 2, Dolly Wells\u2019s Joy in Season 3 and a server at a Mexican restaurant whom we\u2019ll come back to later. She also has a one-night stand with a virgin nun tourist (you read that right) played by Rosie O\u2019Donnell\u2014who is, as we know, queer, and often butch-presenting these days\u2014who\u2019s styled to be as mousey and unmemorable as one can make Rosie O\u2019Donnell. (To date, I don\u2019t think the word \u201cfemme\u201d has been uttered on the show; I do not see anything inherently \u201cfemme, the gender,\u201d as opposed to styled-femininely, about these characters. And a recent listen to a podcast I am too old for tells me that feminine lesbians are using \u201cgirly girl\u201d language, and not \u201cfemme\u201d specifically.) I\u2019m not saying that attraction between feminine-presenting women doesn\u2019t exist, or even doesn\u2019t coexist with other attractions, but I can\u2019t help but wonder why queer masculinity is erased from the show after Miranda\u2019s first foray into queerness.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bring me the butches! While I am not going to diagnose Nixon\u2019s own queer journey adequately and I have no idea when her queer awakening happened (there are <em>many<\/em> takes written on calling her queer vs. bi vs. gay; assuming this info is not dated, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.advocate.com\/people\/2020\/9\/11\/cynthia-nixon-why-she-identifies-queer\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Nixon prefers \u201cqueer\u201d<\/a> herself), I do know that the actor herself was in a long-term relationship with a man before beginning her current relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>TIME <\/em>magazine<em> <\/em>suggests that after being diluted and off from her usual strong character,<em> <\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/time.com\/6301264\/and-just-like-that-miranda-season-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Miranda is back<\/a>, particularly in the workplace\u2014but, arguably, her sexual orientation journey has been her central plotline, and currently that plotline makes no sense! Was the idea with <em>AJLT\u2026<\/em> to bring in a new audience (one would think so with their <a href=\"https:\/\/www.buzzfeed.com\/stephaniesoteriou\/and-just-like-that-creator-address-backlash-season-2\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">aggressive woke-ifying<\/a> of the show), or to keep their legacy audience comfortable (which Miranda\u2019s current love interests would do, by being what they would expect women to look like, if she <em>has <\/em>to be attracted to women). When <a href=\"https:\/\/variety.com\/2025\/tv\/news\/cynthia-nixon-and-just-like-that-miranda-1236416400\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Variety<\/em> nudged Nixon<\/a> about being an executive producer and the possibility that the writers pulled from her personal experience, Nixon was kind but vague, saying, \u201cThe writers may choose to add elements of all of our experiences.\u201d I.e.,. not saying much at all!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In addition to \u201cwhere are the butches?,\u201d I am left wondering why Miranda couldn\u2019t have been made to be bi or pan or a more expansive orientation. Why dismiss her decades-long relationship with Steve and all the men who came before him?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-tiktok wp-block-embed-tiktok\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\nhttps:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@xtramagazine\/video\/7523254498215660806\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Where is the sexual fluidity in this show? Only Che Diaz themself seemed to embrace any! In Episode 2 of Season 3 of the show, Miranda is rejected by a \u201cguacamole waitress\u201d who lets her down by telling her that she\u2019s straight and married with kids. And Miranda is like \u201cSheesh, well, this is so embarrassing, I thought we were flirting\u201d (paraphrasing), making absolutely no connection to the fact that she, herself, Miranda Hobbes, <em>was married to a man and is a mom<\/em> and that she is still queer!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In a less than fine moment of the original <em>SATC<\/em>, Samantha (Kim Cattrall) dates a woman, much to the dismay of her friends. Carrie responds to this by asking, \u201cHow does that work? You go to bed one night, wake up the next morning and poof, you&#8217;re a lesbian?\u201d to which Miranda (ugh) replies, \u201cOh, I forgot to tell you, I\u2019m a fire hydrant!\u201d (This just gets my back up because it is so \u201cthe kids are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nbcnews.com\/tech\/misinformation\/urban-myth-litter-boxes-schools-became-gop-talking-point-rcna51439\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">using litter boxes<\/a>\u201d ahead of its time.) Internalized homophobia is a thing, people are allowed to evolve, but I\u2019m not buying this pantsuit-for-pencil-skirt-only lesbian as a natural evolution. As Ariana DiValentino wrote in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cosmopolitan.com\/entertainment\/tv\/a38817843\/miranda-hobbes-cynthia-nixon-sexuality-essay\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a 2022 <em>Cosmopolitan<\/em> article<\/a>, \u201cultimately, as Cynthia has tried to communicate to the press for years, pinning someone down to a single, inflexible term sort of misses the point.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"is-style-end\">\u201cBeing queer now doesn\u2019t mean she was a lesbian all along, and it also doesn\u2019t mean she magically transformed into one during menopause,\u201d DiValentino writes, but in this new iteration, the writers are saying both of these things are true. It\u2019s unknown to me if Cynthia Nixon herself considers herself to have been queer \u201call along\u201d or a \u201clate bloomer\u201d of sorts, but I\u2019m left wondering why Nixon did not use her position and lived experience to advocate for more nuance and scope into Miranda\u2019s evolution.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>OPINION: There should be butches in the \u201cAnd Just Like That \u2026\u201d universe<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1196,"featured_media":274853,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"editorial_slug":"10","_editorial_slug":"10","exclude_from_latest_block":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,12,4,10],"contributors":[2462],"topic":[162],"clients":[],"series":[],"timeliness":[60],"editorial_format":[25],"type-of-work":[2533],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/274858"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1196"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=274858"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/274858\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":274870,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/274858\/revisions\/274870"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/274853"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=274858"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=274858"},{"taxonomy":"contributors","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/contributors?post=274858"},{"taxonomy":"topic","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/topic?post=274858"},{"taxonomy":"clients","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/clients?post=274858"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=274858"},{"taxonomy":"timeliness","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/timeliness?post=274858"},{"taxonomy":"editorial_format","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/editorial_format?post=274858"},{"taxonomy":"type-of-work","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/xtramagazine.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/type-of-work?post=274858"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}